Archive for June, 2010

You Choose Your Reaction; The 90/10 Rule

Friday, June 18th, 2010

Discovering the 90/10 Principle will change how you react to situations and it will positively change your life. This principle is written by Stephen Covey and we want to share it with you.

What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction; you can control how you react.

Let us use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing away $60 on a traffic fine, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

    A. Did the coffee cause it?
    B. Did your daughter cause it?
    C. Did the policeman cause it?
    D. Did you cause it?
    The answer is “D”.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time.” Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early to work and cheerfully greet the staff.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended differently.

Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.

      90/10 Principle by Steven Covey

Understanding and applying the 90/10 principle WILL change your life!

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Planning Your Day and Time Management Tips

Friday, June 18th, 2010

Planning is a critical piece of the puzzle in reaching your goals. Planning makes you extremely more productive because you have written down, and know exactly, what the major and the minor tasks are that you must accomplish each day.

Time, Time Management, PlanningHow many times have you actually thought “Oh don’t forget to do that tomorrow!” Then tomorrow comes and you completely forget about that very important task that really needed to be done. You get slammed with so many interruptions and favors that you either forget or you put that important task on the back burner because other some other urgent, but probably not important task, was taken on by you.

Stephen Covey writes about this phenomenon of getting overwhelmed with unimportant activities in his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People.” He divides tasks into 4 quadrants. The quadrants are labeled with the tags of important, not important, urgent and not urgent.

Important is something that creates results while urgent items are time sensitive or pressing on us.

This is how the quadrants work:

Quadrant 1 is Important and urgent – These things always get done because they are in your face and need to be taken care of right away like crises and result producing pressing issues.Time Management, Juggling Time, Planning, Scheduling

Quadrant 2 Important and not urgent – These are items that seem to always get put on the back burner of your life. This is where you really need to focus and plan because this is the quadrant where many goal action items can be accomplished. Goals seem to take a back seat and get bumped for urgent tasks or pressing issues. This is the quadrant you need to focus on – Important and not urgent.

Quadrant 3 Not Important and urgent – These are things like some calls, some mail, pressing matters, and some meetings that are all time sensitive but not productive and they do not create results.

Quadrant 4 Not important and not urgent – This is the fun square and it’s easy to spend a lot of time here. These are personal phone calls, emails, parties, pleasant activities, and busy work. Be careful not to spend too much of your time here. The key here is learning to say no to things that don’t produce results and have very little goal value.

Be conscientious of where you spend your time!

Now that you understand this theory of planning your time wisely, below are tips for planning.

You need a planner; just one calendar or planner.

    1. Every evening write down your task for the next day and be sure to write down at least on major goal action item.
    2. Write a specific time next to each task. This takes the guessing out of your day.
    Let’s say you schedule to exercise at 6:00 a.m. When you wake up, you don’t say “Well should I work out?” No, you say “I have to get up, do my power start and get started on my work out!” And you are excited to do it!

Don’t use floating notes, which are pieces of paper not attached to anything of significance.

    1. If you don’t carry a portable planner to write appointments and tasks in then carry a small spiral notebook.
    2. Each evening when you begin to plan the next day, transfer everything to your planner, tear out that page and throw it away so you don’t have to look at it again.

Clear and organize your desk or work area at the end of every day. With an organized desk or work area you can jump right into your tasks saving you 15 to 30 minutes the next morning.

It is said that for every 10 minutes of planning, you will save at least one hour of time. This concept alone should motivate you to plan your day. This accounts for about 5 extra hours of time each week to work in quadrant 2!

Make it a habit to plan day planned and watch your life positively change!

“What one thing could you do in your personal and professional life that, if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your life? Quadrant II activities have that kind of impact. Our effectiveness takes quantum leaps when we do them.” – Stephen R. Covey from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

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The Importance of Goal Setting

Friday, June 4th, 2010

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Turning Your Limiting Beliefs Into Empowering Beliefs

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

It is so important that you turn your limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs because in order to reach goals, you must believe in yourself.

I know I can do anything!

I know I can do anything!


If you have even the slightest inkling that you may not reach your goal, that notion will hold you back. You must empower yourself by taking charge of your beliefs so you can be at your greatest.

 

Limiting beliefs are caused by a lack of confidence and/or fear.

Why do we experience fear or a have lack of confidence? It just takes shape over the years from our environment, our teachers, parents, or a past event. The bottom line is that any limiting belief you have, was accepted by you and you alone.

Examples of limiting belief versus empowering beliefs:

I don’t have the time.    VS     I have plenty of time to do the things that are truly important.
I am depressed.             VS     I have total control over how I feel every day. I choose to be happy.
I’m not smart enough.    VS     I am intelligent and I can learn anything that I desire
Its too late to start.       VS     I am starting today or Its never too late to start.

Write down any limiting beliefs you have and then write an empowering belief next to that.
Rewrite only your empowering beliefs on a clean piece of paper.
Every morning when you awaken, read your new beliefs.

If its fear that is causing your limiting beliefs, you need to take steps to overcome whatever is causing that fear. Get out of your comfort zone. Don’t let fear hold you back. Believe that you can, and you can, do anything. You are capable.

Write down any fears that you need to overcome in order to reach your goals.
Write down the steps you must take to overcome that fear.
Commit to get out of your comfort zone and start taking empowering steps.

Move past any self defeating beliefs and stop using words and phrases like “I can’t” and “impossible.” From today forward, catch yourself every time you say “I can’t” or have any negative notions. Commit to saying only positive, uplifting phrases about yourself.

Everything you want is just outside your comfort zone. – Robert Allen

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