Posts Tagged ‘self improvement’

The Other Side of the Fence

Tuesday, February 8th, 2011

Why is the grass greener on the other side of the fence?

Greener grass on the other side of the fence…Just jump on over, check the bottom of your shoes and you will see why.

The real trick in finding the “greener grass” you desire, is to water and fertilize the grass on your side of the fence. You will soon find that your grass is greener than you ever dreamed of…..even those pesky “brown spots” will magically disappear.

The water and fertilizer you will need is your determination and persistence.

 

Are you having a difficult time finding your water and fertilizer? You can find it in our program which is fun, motivational, instructional, positive, and personal; it will give you the opportunity to……..LIVE YOUR DREAMS!!!!!

Find your magic fertilizer here.

Seven things to carry with you to help relieve stress

Friday, January 21st, 2011

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    1. A PENNY – You can’t say “I’m Broke.”
    2. An ERASER – You can make all of your mistakes disappear.
    3. An ELASTIC BAND – To stretch yourself beyond your limits.
    4. A STRING – To tie things together when they seem to be coming apart.
    5. A MARBLE – To use if someone says “You have lost your marbles.”
    6. A STAR – To wish upon when it seems your dreams are lost.
    7. A “HUG ME” button – So you can get a hug to lift your spirits.

 

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10 Simple Things That Will Make You Happy

Monday, January 10th, 2011

Every day you should do something simple that makes you happy!

Being happy will improve your health and it will rub off on those around you. Here are 10 easy reminders of the simple things in life that will make you happier!

    Complete a task
    Give someone a compliment
    Go to bed early
    Go for a walk
    Laugh out loud
    Sing out loud
    Say No
    Spend time alone
    Volunteer
    Write down something you are grateful for

Bonus Tip: Smile at someone and make their day!

Have the happiest day ever!

Assess Yourself | Short Self Assessment

Sunday, January 2nd, 2011

Do you know what you want in life? Do you know what you want to DO, BE and HAVE? To have the ultimate life, get clear on what you want and create a map of your journey.

Begin with the questions below and start laying out your course.

Career

    Are you happy with your career or do you want more?
    What would you rather be doing?
Healthy Heart

How healthy are you?

 

Health

    What are your eating habits?
    What are you doing to stay healthy?
    Are you getting enough sleep?
    What is your optimum weight?

 

Relationships

    Do you have a close family bond?
    Do you have a best friend?
    Do you have someone you can lean on in times of need?

Life

    How could you have more fun in life?
    What would make life more pleasurable?
Financial Maze

Which way do I go?

 

Financial

    What is your debt level?
    What is your financial plan for the next year?
    What is your financial plan for retirement?

 
 

Personal Growth

    What are you doing to promote your personal growth?
    If you could learn anything, what would it be?

Life’s purpose

    What is your life’s purpose?
    Have you written your life’s purpose?

Now that you have answered some of these questions, your journey should be a bit clearer. Know where you are going because you cannot arrive at your destination if you do not have one.

Who gives you advice?

Who gives you advice?


When you need some guidance, ask for it. When you don’t know what your next move is get a mentor who can help you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and advice.

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” – Joseph Campbell

Please pass this assessment onto others and share the opportunity for self growth.

6 Steps You Can Take Right Now to Turn Your Life Around

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Do you want more out of life; do you wish you were happier, healthier, or made more money? Would you like to spend more time with your family or work from home? Below are steps you can take to begin your journey on getting what you desire:

    1. Decide what you want in life
    2. Write it down
    3. Set up a plan
    4. Take action every day
    5. Have a positive attitude
    6. Do something kind every day

You can be successful at anything, if you choose to be; you can do it, if you make a plan and take action!

    If you need guidance or can’t seem to motivate yourself, we teach in-depth techniques
    in our course on each of these steps. You’ll have more self confidence, be more
    motivated and feel energized! You will accomplish the things you set out to achieve
    when you follow our plan.

New and Exciting Excerpts from our Live Q&A Calls

Sunday, November 28th, 2010

We have just posted some exciting new excerpts on our Video and Audio page. These questions are from live calls and real questions our members have presented. The live interaction in our program is thrilling and unique, not just a box of CDs in the mail!

We hope you will take the time to listen to some of the outstanding answers to questions that people just like you want to know about! The following two excerpts are just a sample of what you will find on the audio page.Live training call excerpt

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You will find more excerpts of our live interaction with our members on topics such as

    Affirmations
    Be Do Have Exercise
    Planning
    Sleep and Health

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Goals Give You Control Over Your Life AUDIO

Tuesday, November 23rd, 2010

Do you have things you want to accomplish but you never seem to get around to taking action? Setting goals is a powerful and effective way to get results. That is what our program is all about; teaching, motivating and being there for you.

Enjoy this audio clip which is taken from a live Q&A we held for our members. Ken talks about how goals make you accountable and how they help you gain control over your life.

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Our lessons and live calls teach effective goal setting, time management, how to break bad habits and then how to create good habits, how to motivate yourself, and much more. You will be more self confident and your quest for self improvement will become a way of life.

More Audio From Curtis Howe on NLP

Thursday, October 28th, 2010

We are excited to post more information from Curtis Howe on NLP. We have posted 3 more informational recordings!

The titles you will find are:

    Neurological Levels of Influence
    Basics of any behavior
    Presuppositions of NLP

Go directly to the Video and Audio Tab or just follow this link: More on NLP

Thank you, Curtis for sharing more of your knowledge with everyone!

If you would like to contact Curtis directly, you can email him at motivatorhowe@yahoo.com.

The “To-Do-List”

Saturday, October 23rd, 2010

Mental vs. Written vs. Honey-Do


The infamous To-Do List…

I think we all know about this nifty little tool in our lives. There are different kinds of To-Do lists: the Mental List, the Written List, and the all time favorite, Honey Do List. All of these can be effective tools, although, they do differ in their effectiveness.

The “Mental List”

This list is used by all of us. We all ponder over the things we want to get done, the things we need to get done, and the things we wish we could get done. The main problem with the Mental List is its vastness. It can be as big as our minds will allow it to be. The Mental List, along with its vastness, is usually not as organized as it should be and can be overwhelming. It is ever-changing and forming to meet our immediate needs.

The flexibility of the Mental List is another of its downfalls. We can easily place obstacles in our own way. We can all find reasons, or excuses, why we can’t get something done. On this list, it is far too easy to put things off until tomorrow. With the Mental List we often retreat to the comfort of our own mind, where we justify our actions with the very secure feeling that someday these things will be done, and when they are, all things will be okay. This shows the ineffectiveness of the Mental List. A good friend of mine once told me “The Mental List is wonderful…….a wonderful waste of time.”

The to-do list, Honey-do list, goal setting, getting organized, time managementThe “Written List”
This is the most effective of all the To-Do lists. Its simplicity is its most powerful characteristic. It is not as easily changed as the Mental List.

The Written List is firm and works best if kept brief and prioritized. One of the best features of the Written List is the act of crossing off items as they are completed. Not only are things getting done, but you see the list getting smaller. This simple reward of a shrinking list has a very large impact on your subconscious mind. Your mind will then motivate you to do the next task, as it loves to be rewarded.

Another advantage of the Written List is that your creation of obstacles is more difficult. If there is, in fact, an obvious obstacle to a particular task, it is best to write down that obstacle as its own task. A good example of this happened to me recently. I had to rake the leaves from my yard but before I could do that I had to buy a new rake. I simply put that obstacle on my To-Do list as “Buy a new rake.” Once that was completed, I had no reason NOT to rake the leaves from my yard. One easy step….two things off the list! If I were using the Mental List I could have easily put this off until the snow flew. The Written List holds you accountable to yourself, and it works.

The “Honey Do List”
This list can come in two forms, the verbal and the written. I’m sure most of us would prefer to hear the Verbal List. Why? Simple; as with the Mental List, it can easily be overcome by merely stating that you forgot or some other lame excuse. This may work a few times but, more often than not, the author of this verbal list will quickly recognize their error and present you, as if by magic, a Written List.
Now you have two lists. That in itself, can become overwhelming. The easy remedy to this situation is to move the things from the Honey-Do List to your Written List.

Conclusion
I must admit I was a victim of the Mental List strategy. My wife, on the other hand, has used the Written List exclusively for years. The difference was she was getting things done and I was simply talking a big game, with no real results. She did try to convert me many times, but I held fast to my beliefs and paid the consequences with constant inefficiency. The why, when and how to all of this can be learned and fine tuned by simply visiting www.goalsmentor.com and enrolling in their straightforward course. The fact is, she finally convinced me to try it. I now use the Written List and it works like a charm.

Curtis Howe on NLP

Thursday, October 7th, 2010

Goals Mentor is fortunate to have the opportunity to work with closely with Curtis Howe who is a successful speaker and motivational trainer. Curtis has over 10 years of experience in helping others and is a Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP Techniques.

Curtis taught an outstanding live session on the basics of NLP and during this session, he shared some fun exercises you can use. We recorded this call and we are excited to share it! Please feel free to listen from your computer or download the MP3 version.

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Curtis will be teaching an intense 12 session course on NLP beginning in January 2010. For more information, you can contact him directly at motivatorhowe@yahoo.com.

Watch for more recordings from Curtis on NLP. We will post all of his material on our Video and Audio page.

Change Your Words for Success!

Monday, August 16th, 2010

Words are powerful and they can make the difference between failure and success. Words, just like goals, determine our actions.

When we eliminate negative words and substitute them with positive thoughts and words, then we gain hope and courage. We give ourselves encouragement to move toward the successes we deserve.

Below are words you shouldn’t use and a positive substitute word or phrase for each:Words for success, self improvement, goal setting

Quit ……………..I can do it
Cannot ………..I can
Unable …………I am willing and able
Impossible ….If it’s realistic, it’s possible.
But …………….And (usually works)
If ………………..When
Should ……….Will
Won’t …………Will
Maybe ……….For sure
Someday ……Today
Never …………Now
Try ……………..I’ll do it

For just one week, think before you commit to saying a negative word or statement. When you do this, it will improve your happiness, make you more enthusiastic and move you in the direction of your goals.

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Promise Yourself – The Optimist Creed

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

Wonderful creed to live by and that is why I am sharing this.

Promise yourself to be strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds.

To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

Christian D. Larson 1912 – The Optimist Creed

Choose to be an optimist; to be happy and spread joy!

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Positive Life Changes

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

How do you manage change in your life? Changes are essential because they open new doors to opportunity and they create room for adjustments. Accept change because without it, your life may become lackluster and cheerless.

Everyone experiences change, whether it is a change in their job, relationship or health. It may even be a change you initiated that may suddenly seem daunting.

Practice being good at change and always focus on the positive. Sometimes it may take some time to realize that a specific change of circumstance was actually a gift in disguise. The gift you receive may not even be related, in any way, to the change you experienced. For example, you may lose your job but find yourself in a rewarding new relationship would never have taken shape if you were still employed.

Change may lead you to new people, help you develop a stronger belief in yourself, provide you with new opportunities, or inspire you to live a healthier life.

It’s important to be on the lookout for the good that can transpire from unexpected changes.

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Gratitude

Monday, July 19th, 2010

Knowing what you are grateful for is an important factor to happiness and success.

Being aware of everything that you have to be thankful for will help you create a positive focus. Gratefulness will help you reach your goals because you are seeing all the positive things that are happening in your life.

When you are focused on the things that make you worry, you may fall into an unproductive state, which will set you back from reaching your goals. Even obstacles in our lives make us learn and problem solve, so accept these as opportunities of personal growth.

You are responsible for your success or failures, so let’s focus on successes!

Here are ideas to help bring gratitude into your life every day:

Start a gratitude journal
Create a gratitude list
Add a statement to your power start and give thanks every morning
Read your goals each morning, then add one thing you are grateful for
Put a rock or piece of polished glass in your pocket and every time you see it or feel it, think of something you are grateful for

Realize what you have and who you are and find ways to be thankful for everything.

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The Basics of Goals

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

What are your goals and dreams? What do you aspire to or hope for? Goals help turn these “wishes” into reality. You can have what you desire with some planning and that is what goal setting is all about. Goal setting gives you the necessary confidence you need to know that you can have anything that you want in life.

What is a goal?

A goal is a dream that has a deadline.

Why should you set goals?

  • Goals give you direction; they give you a road map. You can’t arrive at a specific destination if you don’t know where you are going. When you know where you are going you will stop driving around in circles and head straight for your destination.
  • Goals create enthusiasm. Enthusiasm comes from within and when you have a goal, you have a purpose. Every day when you awaken you are excited to get up because you know where you are going and you are getting closer to reaching your dreams!
  • Goals make you happy. Your mind is alive because it has something encouraging to focus on. Goals help eliminate negative thoughts and discontentment.
  • Goals help you overcome obstacles. Obstacles are what you see when you take your sites off your goals, so if you don’t have goals, you’re forced to focus on obstacles.
  • Goals give you discipline. Goals make you mind yourself. Instead of just going through your everyday actions, now you will be asking yourself “Is this action taking me closer to or farther away from my goals?”
  • Goals give you confidence. When you have clearly defined and written goals, you move toward those goals with unshakeable confidence. You don’t let anything get in your way.

If goals are such a great thing then why don’t more people set them? The only reasons that seem reasonable are that people don’t know how and/or they just don’t understand the importance of setting goals.

How do you set goals?

You write them down using these key factors:

  • Your goals must be written in a present, positive state as if you have already achieved your goal.
  • Your goal must be measurable, attainable and tangible.
  • You must have a deadline, a timeframe, in place for when you will reach that goal.
  • You must list the obstacles and the solutions to overcome the obstacles you may encounter.
  • You must reward yourself when you reach predetermined milestones or when you reach your goal.

It is imperative that your goals incorporate these factors in order to be effective.

Be sure you set goals in every area of your life. A balanced life is a good life. The areas in which to set
goals for are:

  • Physical and health
  • Financial
  • Family and relationship
  • Spiritual
  • Educational and mental

Get serious about doing something for yourself. Writing down your goals and having a purpose to achieve your goals will benefit not only you, but your family and others around you.

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Positively Altering Your Views

Sunday, July 11th, 2010

Sometimes it is a challenge to make changes in our life because certain things may seem like a chore to us. Positively altering the way you perceive the changes you are making will produce better results and propel you more quickly toward your goals.

Here are some examples:

I have to manage my time. Change to: I have my priorities straight.
I am dieting to lose weight. Change to: I have changed my relationship with food.
I am working to change my life. Change to: I am transforming my life.
I must always think about self improvement. Change to: I live consciously.

Do an exercise right now.

Write down the changes you are making in your life that you discern to be a chore.

Now, positively modify these transformations.

From today forward, think and talk about these changes with your new and improved declarations!

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You Choose Your Reaction; The 90/10 Rule

Friday, June 18th, 2010

Discovering the 90/10 Principle will change how you react to situations and it will positively change your life. This principle is written by Stephen Covey and we want to share it with you.

What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction; you can control how you react.

Let us use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing away $60 on a traffic fine, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

    A. Did the coffee cause it?
    B. Did your daughter cause it?
    C. Did the policeman cause it?
    D. Did you cause it?
    The answer is “D”.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time.” Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early to work and cheerfully greet the staff.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended differently.

Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.

      90/10 Principle by Steven Covey

Understanding and applying the 90/10 principle WILL change your life!

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Planning Your Day and Time Management Tips

Friday, June 18th, 2010

Planning is a critical piece of the puzzle in reaching your goals. Planning makes you extremely more productive because you have written down, and know exactly, what the major and the minor tasks are that you must accomplish each day.

Time, Time Management, PlanningHow many times have you actually thought “Oh don’t forget to do that tomorrow!” Then tomorrow comes and you completely forget about that very important task that really needed to be done. You get slammed with so many interruptions and favors that you either forget or you put that important task on the back burner because other some other urgent, but probably not important task, was taken on by you.

Stephen Covey writes about this phenomenon of getting overwhelmed with unimportant activities in his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People.” He divides tasks into 4 quadrants. The quadrants are labeled with the tags of important, not important, urgent and not urgent.

Important is something that creates results while urgent items are time sensitive or pressing on us.

This is how the quadrants work:

Quadrant 1 is Important and urgent – These things always get done because they are in your face and need to be taken care of right away like crises and result producing pressing issues.Time Management, Juggling Time, Planning, Scheduling

Quadrant 2 Important and not urgent – These are items that seem to always get put on the back burner of your life. This is where you really need to focus and plan because this is the quadrant where many goal action items can be accomplished. Goals seem to take a back seat and get bumped for urgent tasks or pressing issues. This is the quadrant you need to focus on – Important and not urgent.

Quadrant 3 Not Important and urgent – These are things like some calls, some mail, pressing matters, and some meetings that are all time sensitive but not productive and they do not create results.

Quadrant 4 Not important and not urgent – This is the fun square and it’s easy to spend a lot of time here. These are personal phone calls, emails, parties, pleasant activities, and busy work. Be careful not to spend too much of your time here. The key here is learning to say no to things that don’t produce results and have very little goal value.

Be conscientious of where you spend your time!

Now that you understand this theory of planning your time wisely, below are tips for planning.

You need a planner; just one calendar or planner.

    1. Every evening write down your task for the next day and be sure to write down at least on major goal action item.
    2. Write a specific time next to each task. This takes the guessing out of your day.
    Let’s say you schedule to exercise at 6:00 a.m. When you wake up, you don’t say “Well should I work out?” No, you say “I have to get up, do my power start and get started on my work out!” And you are excited to do it!

Don’t use floating notes, which are pieces of paper not attached to anything of significance.

    1. If you don’t carry a portable planner to write appointments and tasks in then carry a small spiral notebook.
    2. Each evening when you begin to plan the next day, transfer everything to your planner, tear out that page and throw it away so you don’t have to look at it again.

Clear and organize your desk or work area at the end of every day. With an organized desk or work area you can jump right into your tasks saving you 15 to 30 minutes the next morning.

It is said that for every 10 minutes of planning, you will save at least one hour of time. This concept alone should motivate you to plan your day. This accounts for about 5 extra hours of time each week to work in quadrant 2!

Make it a habit to plan day planned and watch your life positively change!

“What one thing could you do in your personal and professional life that, if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your life? Quadrant II activities have that kind of impact. Our effectiveness takes quantum leaps when we do them.” – Stephen R. Covey from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

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Clear Off That To-Do List!

Saturday, May 15th, 2010

Does your to-do list just keep growing and you are not getting around to many of the tasks?

Your “list” can actually be detrimental and make you feel overwhelmed. To renew yourself and to re-energize, take these steps:

1. Determine if this task really has to be done, and if not, eliminate it from your list
2. Move any task that is not time sensitive to a long term list that you don’t look at every day
3. Choose a day and complete the tasks left on your list – all of them

A to-do list should make you feel good each time you are able to cross something off. By starting with a clean slate, you will feel happy because you will see your list shorten instead of grow!

“Sometimes the greatest gain in productive energy will come from cleaning the cobwebs, dealing with old business, and clearing the decks.” — David Allen

Morning and Evening Affirmations

Wednesday, December 16th, 2009

What starts your day perfectly?  Are you a morning person or a night owl?  Either way, these two affirmations should help you feel better and be more productive.

Say this in the evening:

I am waking up at  __( time ) a.m._  in the morning because I know it creates the time to get the things done that will lead toward the achievement of my goals.  I am so excited about reaching my goal of __( insert goal )___.      I am going to bed at  __( time ) p.m.__  and I will feel great tomorrow because ________  hours is plenty of sleep for me to feel great and to be able to achieve what is truly important to me.

 

Say this in the morning:

I enjoy waking up each morning at  __( time )a.m.__  because I know it creates the time to get the things done that will lead toward the achievement of my goals.   I had plenty of sleep and I feel great!  I will do the most important step toward reaching my goal of ________________ first, before anything else, because that is what is truly important to me.

Note:  If you wake up 1 hour earlier or go to bed 1 hour later, whichever works best for you, and you devote that 1 hour to your goals, you will gain 7 hours per week which is almost 1 full workday.  Each year you will accumulate approximately 50 extra work days! 

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